Psychotherapist · New York, NY & online
Most therapy asks how you feel. I’m more interested in why you do what you do.
Active, direct therapy in NYC for capable people who want to be challenged, not just heard.
Is this you?
From the outside, you’ve got it handled.
What you don’t advertise is that you’re tired in a way sleep doesn’t touch, or that you keep running a pattern you can see perfectly clearly and still can’t stop.
You’ve probably either tried therapy and found it slow, or pictured it and assumed it would be forty-five minutes of someone nodding while you narrate your week before “we’re out of time.”
That’s a real approach, and it helps a lot of people. It’s just not what happens here.
What I help with
What usually brings people in.
You don’t need a diagnosis or the perfect words to start. If one of these sounds like you, it’s worth a conversation.
- Your brain won't turn off at night.Anxiety & overthinking
- You're running on empty in a job that won't let up.Burnout & high-pressure careers
- Nothing you do ever feels like enough.Perfectionism & self-criticism
- You're not sure who you are outside of your current role.Career & life transitions
- You keep ending up in the same place with people.Relationships & recurring patterns
- You got the thing you wanted and felt nothing.Feeling flat despite success
How I work
Therapy that pushes back.
I’m active. I challenge. I ask a lot of questions.
Some therapy sounds like
- “Mm-hmm … and how does that make you feel?”
- Long silences you're left to fill alone.
- Months of gently circling the same story.
- Lots of nodding, very little pushback.
With me, it sounds more like
- “What makes you so sure that's true?”
- “Whose voice is that, really?”
- “Okay — so what do you want to do about it?”
- “You just did it again, right here with me. Notice that?”
If you want the technical version: my work draws on psychodynamic and relational therapy, Bowen family systems, and ACT. In plain terms, we look at the roots of your patterns, how the systems you came up in shaped the way you operate now, and how to act on what actually matters to you — even when it’s uncomfortable.
About me
I came to this work from the other side of the table.
Before I was a therapist, I worked as a software investor. The part I loved was the founders. The part I couldn’t get past was that the job put me on the other side of the table from them. My work was the return on the company, not the person building it, and I wanted to be on the same side as the whole person. So I went to Columbia for my master’s in social work.
I work with all kinds of people now, not only the ones who come from the world I did. What they tend to have in common is that they’re capable, used to handling things on their own, and quietly worn down by something they can’t out-think. Because of where I started, you won’t have to explain a demanding job or translate a high-pressure life for me. I know the reflex to run yourself like something to be optimized.
What to expect
How the work begins.
- 01
A free 15-minute call
We talk through what's going on and whether I'm the right person for it. If it's not a fit, I'll tell you, and point you somewhere better.
- 02
Your first session
Mostly me getting the lay of the land — what brought you in, the shape of your life, and what you want to be different. You don't need to prepare anything or have it figured out. That part is my job.
- 03
From there, we get to work
You set the pace on the heavy stuff. Most people meet weekly, moving between understanding a pattern and actually shifting it — with one eye on what's different in your life outside this room.
Let’s talk first
The first step is a free 15-minute call.
We talk, you get a feel for how I work, and we decide together whether it’s worth going further. No pressure, no obligation.